How to interact with a loved one who has dementia

Supporting a loved one with dementia can be both challenging and rewarding. Their world may feel fragmented, but your compassion and approach can make a world of difference. Here’s how you can create meaningful and supportive interactions: 

1. Practice patience 

Dementia can cause memory loss, confusion and difficulty expressing thoughts. Slow down conversations and give them time to respond. Rushing or correcting them might frustrate both of you, so focus on creating a calm and reassuring atmosphere. 

2. Focus on the present 

Your loved one might struggle to recall past events, so try shifting the conversation to the present moment. Enjoy a shared activity like listening to music, taking a walk or looking at family photos together. The goal isn’t to test their memory but to share joy. 

3. Use simple and clear communication 

According to the Alzheimer’s Society, speak in short sentences and use simple language. Avoid asking open-ended questions like, “What do you want for lunch?” Instead, offer choices: “Would you like soup or a sandwich?” This reduces confusion and helps them feel included. 

4. Validate their emotions 

Additionally stated by the Alzheimer’s Society, dementia can lead to emotional ups and downs. If they seem anxious or upset, acknowledge their feelings with empathy. Statements like, “I see you’re upset. I’m here for you,” can offer comfort. 

5. Embrace their reality 

Correcting their memories or orientation to time can create stress. Instead, gently enter their world. If they believe it’s 1965, talk about what they loved during that time. The connection matters more than the facts. 

6. Celebrate small moments 

Appreciate the little victories—whether it’s a laugh, a smile, or a conversation that flows easily. These moments are treasures that help strengthen your bond. 

Your role is vital 

Interacting with a loved one who has dementia takes patience, love, and adaptability. Remember, your presence is more impactful than words. With kindness and understanding, you can create a safe and nurturing environment where they feel valued and loved.