No One Should Live in Fear, and You Don't Have To
If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1 now
Abuse is never acceptable. This includes all forms of abuse, including but not limited to physical, verbal or controlling actions which can include who you can see, what you can do, how much money you can spend and more.
If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, as a man or woman, there is help. Others have been where you are and found their way to a better life.
Seek assistance from professional organizations, including local options or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at thehotline.org or (800) 799-SAFE (7233).
Does your friend's relationship seem odd?
It can be hard to tell if someone is in an abusive relationship and even harder to ask. However, there are signs. Does your friend's partner
- Show extreme jealously of friends and time spent away?
- Insult, demean, or shame your friend?
- Control every penny spent in the household?
- Control who they see, where they go or what they do?
- Intimidate them with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Tell them they can't do anything right?
If you are afraid for someone, imagine how they feel
Individuals in abusive relationships are often reluctant to ask for help. They might be embarrassed, feel they deserve the life they have or think there is no better alternative. Sometimes what they need most to gain the confidence to move on is a friend.
How to help a friend
- Let them know you understand they are in a difficult situation. Listen and be supportive.
- Don't judge them and remain a friend. It may take multiple tries for them to leave the relationship for good.
- If they end the relationship, understand healing takes time.
- Encourage them to spend time with family and friends.
- Help them develop a safety plan.
- Encourage them to talk to people who can provide help and guidance.
For more information on domestic abuse, refer to local organizations or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at thehotline.org or (800) 799-SAFE (7233).